Day 24: Responsibility for your own actions
I see a theme with how spouses to people with alcohol problems handle the situation. There are all kinds - some are very supportive no matter total disasters or minor blips in otherwise rather successful AF periods. Some others seem to be of a controlling type trying to force their significant other into staying away from alcohol. Or maybe threat to leave for years in a row. I think the most important thing here is that everyone is responsible for their actions. Our spouse can choose to leave us if we do not sort out our problem with alcohol. And we can choose to quit drinking and by that maybe prevent that from happening. Our spouse can not force us to stop drinking as little as we can force him or her to stay if we continue seeking the solution in the bottom of the bottle. You can only be responsible for the 50% of a relationship that is you. It’s actually that simple.