Day 45: Ambivalence cross

When starting this journey we are asked to write a list of why we want to stop drinking alcohol. My brother, who is in deeper trouble than I've ever been is now trying to build a better future for himself. In therapy he was asked to fill in the "Ambivalence Cross".
I've read numerous statements from people between day 30 and 90 that gets into a slump where everything feels boring and meaningless. A wise person here in the group said that maybe this is because one has focused a little bit too much on disadvantages in the why-list. Things to avoid instead of what to gain. After a while AF one forgets how bad these disadvantages were and the list shrinks to nothing.
What I find interesting with the "Ambivalence Cross" is that you from the beginning look at your drinking from all angles and not only from the negative side. Instead of only focusing on why you shouldn't drink you go full circle and also state the advantages with continue drinking as well as the disadvantages of stopping. By being here in this group you probably know that the negatives outweigh the positives - but it never hurts to state them clear so that you have the full reasoning in print how you thought when you started. This way you will not be fooled that the problem has gone away or tricked into thinking that you understated how much of a challange it would be.

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