Day 341: The other side


Every emotion has its counterpart. We have to have been bored to have fun. We have to have felt calmness to be excited and we have to experience true love to feel heart breaking sorrow. We mourn because we have loved and we dared to love because the one we loved was worth losing.


Don’t judge the decisions you made then, with the knowledge you have now. Alcohol made my life harder but I didn’t know to what extent then. I don’t want any of my years with alcohol undone because they all form the fundament of my alcohol free self today. You can not be alcohol free if you haven’t had alcohol, because you can not free yourself from nothing.


And just like emotions has their counterparts, so does actions I’ve done before and after I stopped drinking. My energetic drunken me then mirrors itself in the calm alcohol free me now. And that person blaming my faults on others to avoid dealing with alcohol has a lighter twin who instead takes the blame where it’s due and helps others. It takes one to know one, you know.


The bad things I did before I stopped drinking are all part of the good things I do now. Alcohol has given me lots of anxiety but now on the other side it has also taught me things about myself I wouldn’t know otherwise.


So I am grateful, both that I drank, and that I stopped

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