Day 365 - One year


I’ve made it. Today marks the year since I stopped drinking. It’s been a wonderful and a tough year. I love the AF life, it has shown me the best version of myself. At the same time my brother’s death has been immensely tough. But instead of giving up I chose to see that as a test, that I didn’t fail, which I’m really proud of today. The tougher it is to not drink, the better it will feel afterwards if you prevail.


This year has shown me things in my life on which I would like to improve. Being AF is like waking up and seeing life for what it is and makes it impossible to neglect the things that’s annoying or in need of improvement. It has also restored my pure feeling of self worth which is incompatible with status quo and neglect. And good things start growing when I remove old energy thieves. It’s like throwing a heap of rocks out of the balloon: remove the root of energy waste and you surge to the sky!


One of my most useful insight has been “the switch” which is what I call the moment when struggle goes to calmness and thoughts that I want to drink is turned into questions why I should. After each switch I’ve been on a plateau for a while without any real struggles. Right before the next switch the struggle is the hardest, it’s like the closer I am to the next plateau the tougher it feels.


So when it feels really tough - you’re close to a switch in your AF journey so just stick to it.


There are so many people here which has supported me on the way and I’ve gained some really good friends. You know who you are and even though I’ve reduced my Facebook activity considerably I will check in every now and then. Feel free to contact me on Messenger if you want just like Kurt Budge did! I’m meeting up with him today since he’s in Stockholm.


Keep up the good fight everyone! You’re definitely worth it!


Onwards and upwards, comrades!

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