Day 100. Help from the community

I’m not going to show a before after photo. Because the biggest difference for me has happened on the inside and not the outside.
100 days ago I was troubled. I found my drinking spiraling. Couldn’t even stay clean the weeks I had my kids. I went swimming with my youngest daughter, but had to go to the toilet to vomit before heading out, because I had had to much wine. The only adult around so drunk I had to puke!
100 days ago I woke up almost every day with those horrible shivers around the spine and with closed eyes, not daring to open them because I knew that the moment I did the headache would set in. Getting out of bed to go to work knowing that this would be one of these horrible days I just had to endure.
100 days ago I was lost. Couldn’t fit together why I was doing this to myself when I obviously had so much going for me. I knew that the ONLY thing that could destroy my life and prevent me from being the best dad in the world was alcohol. I KNEW this and was still doing it.
I had to do something about it. I thought that staying AF for a month would reset my thinking around alcohol. I found OYNB and signed up for 28 days. And I met you guys - the most authentic, honest and loving bunch of people there is on the planet. I felt like coming home: the whole group feels like Facebook 2.0 where the real stuff happens. Honest, important posts about life instead of mundane pictures of food and feet on beaches. And with the inversed math: the longer the post - the more reads. So you can stop with the “Long post alert”, y’all... šŸ˜‚
Being in this group have transformed me to become absolutely sure that I will never need any more alcohol in my life. I do not say that my story should be applied to anyone else - I’m just expressing my own. But the relief for me when I understood this was monumental. I felt transcended to another level - and that’s the reason I have been rather adamant regarding moderation. If that is your goal and you manage to do it - I congratulate and salute you - but for me it feels totally pointless because I can’t see what alcohol could bring to my life except anxiety and remorse. I’m worth so much more than being dependent on a drug for my life to be fulfilled.
So - here I am 100 days later. Strong, delirious on life, filled with passion and purpose. I’m on a roll to complete fulfillment and I have you guys to thank for it. You’re amazing, and I love you all!
Onwards and upwards, comrades! There’s nothing we can’t achieve together!

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