Day 96. Share to help

Lying here in bed awake way to early (about 04:30 here). This is pretty common the first night after the kids have gone to their mum’s. I guess it’s a little bit of coping with loneliness.
Yesterday I was invited to a jam session at a friends apartment in the neighborhood. They have a lot of friends from South America so I had to brush off my montuno-piano skills😊 I brought my own kombucha and nobody really cared what I was drinking - I even think they thought my bottle was filled with some really homemade, strong stuff. ðŸ˜‡
I’ve been thinking about us sharing our experiences here in this group being a wonderful thing. We can help each other to spot dangers ahead and learn from each other’s mistakes.
But at the same time - we should not think this makes us immune to mistakes. When someone tells you about how they took a blip and regret it or even a reset with a big “don’t do it it’s not worth it” the message will land in your brain - but not necessarily in your heart. The brain can help you to logically understand why moderation is a bad idea - but if the heart emotionally hasn’t experienced HOW bad of an idea it is - it doesn’t really matter what the brain says in the long run.
My point is: we should share and help each other - but not be too hard on ourselves if we despite this do things contrary to those words of advice. If the path is treaded - it’s not your path. We all will have to build our own meandering experience with mistakes and all on how to how to deal with alcohol. It’s certainly easier to do it together - but we all have our own stories to tell and build for the future.

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