Day 103: My journey so far

There is a first for everything. Many of you have made it through your first Saturday, and about to make your second.
When I started my 28 days challenge the first weekend was the hardest. Even though my whys were in fresh memory, I had so few days under my belt that I pretty easily thought: I managed to not drink during the week, that gotta be worth something. If I would drink this weekend (because I’ve been so great not to drink any in the weekdays) I could just restart my challenge on Monday.
But I didn’t drink. Because something in me said: you wanted this. It was a lot of repeating my whys the first weeks. I especially said “I want to be the best father I can be” many many times.
After a couple of weeks I started to close in on my 28. I decided to prolong but not without thorough thinking: do I REALLY want to continue? I saw a lot of people who struggled between 30-40 days because they signed up at a whim and felt regretful and just wanted to start drinking again.

The switch in me came around day 60. It was not a dramatic switch, it was more of an awakening. One day i thought: “I haven’t been thinking about alcohol lately”. That was such a comforting feeling. Like my struggles in the beginning had paid off and that I could start feeling the love to myself which was the reason I started the challenge in the first place.
It will be highs and lows on the journey, but remember that you do this out of love to yourself. Something in you woke up and wanted a change. Something within you knew that you were destined for something better than to destroy your life with alcohol. That something is your purest inner voice and you should be proud that your voice is strong enough to make you take hard decisions of self-love that will make your life better in the long run. Not everyone’s inner voice is that strong - but your obviously is.
Onwards and upwards, comrades!

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