Day 170: External or internal

Some people seem to get triggered when the world go crazy while some others seem to feel the opposite: the more stress the less inclination to drink. Why is it so?

I think it partly might have to do with if your true motivations are external or internal. External means that someone else pointed out your problem with alcohol before you saw them yourself. If the motivations are mainly external they also gets more fragile if the world outside changes. If your decision not to drink first and foremost is your own not conditioned by anyone else I think that you’re less likely to get triggered when the outside changes dramatically.

I think that some of us can transition from external motivations to internal: actually I think that’s what many are doing when they reset over and over again: for every reset the motivations become more internal and less external. When you see which power alcohol really has over you, your energy gets more focused in you because you understand that it’s the only way to beat alcohol.

So in these crazy times, take the opportunity to inquire yourself how far from your own center your motivations not to drink really are. Are you AF because someone asked you to, or that you know that you will lose someone if you break it or because you saw no other way for YOU to live the life with the relationships you wanted unless you stopped drinking?

These questions can be foggy to answer but I think that it’s a wonderful opportunity to pause and try to understand those things when the world grinds to a halt.

Onwards and inwards, comrades!
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